You will find this article so interesting. Many intending couples have fallen victims of this circumstance and not taken cognisance of things listed here has even made some established relationships cracked.
- Not Defining Their Relationship
People love wasting their emotions especially with the opposite sex. They don’t ask questions when they are close with a guy or a lady and they know that the closeness is turning to a relationship but they won’t ask questions.
Ask questions like; what’s it about us? Are we just friends or are we to start a relationship together? . Don’t waste your emotions.
- Thinking All Is Fine After Getting A “Yes”:
Getting a “yes” from a lady is good but there is something much more to do after getting a “yes”. Some guys relax after getting a “yes” from a lady, thinking that is all to a relationship. There is more to do.
- That Love Settles All In Their Relationships And No Need To Make It Work
People mostly believe that because they love themselves then that is all to their relationship. Relationship is not just about loving yourselves and it does not settles all. There’s a work to do, e.g Making your differences work, how to make your thoughts align etc
- Spending Time With Other People But Not Their Partners
Most people enjoy the company of the opposite sex to their partners. So, they commit their time to others than their partners. Sooner or later you’ll develop emotions for that person and then you’ll leave your partner for that person.
- Not Forgetting About Their Past Relationship
This is dangerous. You hear people say, “I miss my past relationship or I miss my ex”. Though, speaking with people I realize it’s because their present partner is not doing what is expected of them to keep the relationship going. They tend to compare their current relationship with the past relationship when things like this often occur. Some even keep romantic chats with their ex. You need to let go and focus on your relationship. Distraction is a thing you need to deal with. You need to ensure your relationship works.
- Not Talking About “When Am I Meeting Your Parents?”
Someone informed me about how her partner is avoiding her from meeting any of his family members, not to talk of the parents. You need to talk about it. Though, timing is important about meeting one another’s parents but, we must ask this question and know where you belong in the person’s heart
- Not Making Plans Toward Marriage
Your relationship needs to move being an acquaintance to friend, then the next stage is Relationship and then Marriage. Relationship is what leads into marriage. You need to talk about marriage. Talk about the number of children you will like to have together. How you’ll discipline your kids etc. Some folks don’t talk about marriage in their relationship at all and this tends to bring insecurity into their relationship.
- Not Talking About S3x
One of the concerns of ladies is to be sure if they’re not dealing with a guy that is impotent. I’ve heard discussions with ladies on this topic of discussion and they often tell me how important this is to them and their frustration of not being sure of how potent their partner is. I’ve heard of a guy who never discussed sex with his partner and he was impotent, of which they later got married, she felt cheated on. Don’t make that mistake, if your partner is not talking about it, try and bring it up. You need to know his level of performance. This doesn’t mean we are advocating for sex before marriage but sometimes, I think it’s always the best to have a taste of the soup first before you serve it. Averagely, all guys have a sort of erection when with their partner. Be vigilant, be observant. Find out too if she has done any abortion before from friends, most especially from her. If you have, don’t hide it.
- Spending On Themselves Alone And Not Their Partner
Marriage is not for selfish people. When you’re selfish in your relationship, you may be selfish in your marriage. If you understand that your partner reflects you either a guy or a lady, you won’t spend on yourself alone but always thinking of your partner. A lady also discussed her fears about her partner who has never bought a thing for her before, despite how she tries her best to keep giving. Keep your giving ability to be mutual.
- Thinking You Understand Everything About Your Partner
People always assume they know all about their partner but the truth is, you don’t! An elderly Pastor once told me; don’t assume you know all about your partner. I wanted to fight it in my heart until he mentioned some things that can only be known within the confines of marriage. Never think you know all about your partner. But, no matter what he or she puts up, be ready to help your partner get better.
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